Erotic Lexicon

The following is a list of terms that can be useful when communicating about matters of sex. Love making, and erotic stimulation. Many of these terms derived from slang expression and casual speech. If you’re looking for a particular term and can’t find it email us at info@essenceofnature.com and we will add it to our lexicon.

Ally

Someone who is not a member of a group that tends to be discriminated against (such as people who identify as LGBTQ) but who works to support members of that group.

A-spot

The erogenous zone near the prostate gland, considered the male G-spot for the intense orgasms it can deliver with proper stimulation.

Anal

Sexual penetration involving the anus, also called Greek style.

Anal Lube

A special kind of lube intended for anal penetration. Anal lube tends to be thicker and longer lasting than other kinds of lube, which can make it harder to clean up.

Anal Vibrator

A vibrator designed for anal use. Anal vibrators usually measure 3 to 5 inches long and 1 inch wide at the most, making them shorter and thinner than other vibrators.

Analingus

A sexual behavior where a person’s mouth and/or tongue is used to stimulate a partner’s anus. This is also known as rimming.

Anal Beads

An instrument inserted into the ass, with bumps that keep getting bigger, meant to stretch the ass and put strain on it until it pops

Aphrodisiac

Something believed to increase a person's sexual drive and lower inhibitions. For instance, most Americans believe oysters and chocolate are effective aphrodisiacs.

Areola

An area of skin around the nipples that is darker than the rest of the breast.

Arousal

The physiological changes that occur as a result of sexual excitement. These include an erection, vaginal lubrication and an increased sense of sexual arousal.

Bareback

Vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, or oral intercourse without the use of a condom.

Back Door

A reference to any form of anal penetration either by a sex toy or during sex itself.

Bartholin’s glands

Two glands that are located in the inner labia on each side of the vaginal opening. Their purpose is to provide lubrication during sexual arousal

Beat

A slang term for having sex.

Beating the bishop

A slang term for male masturbation

Beaver

A slang term for vagina.

Blue Balls

A term used to describe an uncomfortable feeling in the testicles when sexual excitement does not lead to ejaculation. In actuality, both males and females can experience this uncomfortable feeling as a result of sexual pressure that builds up but is not released. It is usually described as a full feeling or an uncomfortable ache that occurs in the genitals. For males, this occurs in the testicles (balls) and for females this occurs in the lower pelvic region. There is no damage as a result of pressure that is not released, and “blue balls” is never an excuse to keep going if someone wants to stop sexual behavior.

Bi-curious

A term that refers to someone who is primarily attracted to people of a different sex, but who has romantic or sexual thoughts about people of the same sex.

Bisexual

A slang term for bisexual. A bisexual person is someone who can be emotionally, romantically and/or sexually attracted to more than one gender.

Breast sex

A sexual position where the person on the receiving end places a penis or toy between her breasts, squeezes her breasts together and rapidly thrusts the penis or toy between them, simulating penetration.

Boner

A slang term for an erection. An erection is when the penis fills with blood in response to sexual excitement and becomes larger and stands away from the body.

Boobs

A slang term for breasts. Also called “tits” or “titties.

Butt Plugs

Designed specifically for anal stimulation, these sex toys measure 3 to 5 inches long. They tend to have a conical shaft with a thin tip that flares out to about 1 to 2 inches wide near the bottom. Butt plugs have a large, flat base designed to prevent them from slipping in too far.

Bullets

A small vibrator, usually around 2 to 4 inches long, used mainly for clitoral stimulation and to enhance other sex toys

Butterfly Vibrator

A specialty vibrator lined with ticklers that's intended for clitoral stimulation only. Butterfly vibes often come with straps so the user can fit them into place over her clitoris and wear the butterfly vibe like a pair of panties. The inside is covered with ticklers for clitoral stimulation.

Camel Toe

A slang term that refers to the visible indent between the labia, which is sometimes seen when a woman wears tighter clothing.

Cervix

The lower part of the uterus that connects the uterus to the vagina.

Celibacy

The decision not to engage in sexual behaviors, whether in the current time or in the future. This is used most commonly to refer to religious vows, such as those taken by a nun or a priest.

Choad

A penis that is wider than it is long.

Cherry

A slang term for hymen.

Climax

Describe having an orgasm.

Clit

Short for clitoris, it is the small, erect part of the female genitalia located near the front of the labia. This button-like spot contains thousands of nerve endings, making it highly sensitive.

Clitoris

Located near the top of the vagina, this is the only part of the human body existing solely to provide pleasure.

Clitoral Vibrator

Any kind of vibrator that provides clitoral stimulation, including rabbit vibes, butterfly vibes and more.

Closeted

A term that refers to a person who does not tell others their sexual orientation or gender identity. Sometimes referred to as being “in the closet.”

Cowgirl

Sexual position where the recipient is on top and facing their partner.

Creampie

Adult movie term for when a man ejaculates inside his partner.

Crush

A slang term for having romantic feelings for another person.

Cowper’s Glands

A pair of glands in the male reproductive system that are responsible for secreting a fluid that makes up pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and the fluids surrounding sperm in semen or ejaculate.

Coitus Interruptus

A method of birth control where someone pulls their penis out of their partner’s vagina before ejaculation. It is not recommended because it is unreliable, but it is better than not using any method at all. This method does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases. It is also known as pulling out or withdrawal.

Come Out

When a person acknowledges that they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or queer and shares it with others.

Cougar

An older woman who tries to pick up younger men for sex. Urban cougars are usually found in late-night bars and clubs in downtown areas.

Cunnilingus

A sexual behavior where oral sex is performed usually by licking or sucking a person’s clitoris or vulva.

Cybersex

The act of having sexual relations over the Internet, usually by way of a live feed such as a webcam. This often involves erotic chatting between multiple partners, with masturbation likely from one or more parties.

Climax

One of many phrases used to describe having an orgasm.

Daisy Chain

Sexual activity when several people are lined up in a row or in a circle to stimulate each other simultaneously.

Deep Throat

A special type of blowjob that involves swallowing a partner's penis up to the base. Successful deep throat requires the giver to suppress their gag reflex and open up their throat while developing a rhythm so they can breathe comfortably. Several adult products help suppress the gag reflex.

Dental Dam

A thin square of latex used to cover the vulva during oral sex or the anus during analingus to reduce the risk of spread of sexually transmitted diseases. It is called a “dental dam” because it was created for use in dental procedures.

Dick

A slang term for penis.

Dildo

A sex toy meant for vaginal or anal penetration made to closely resemble a penis.

Doggy-style

A sexual position where the recipient is bending over facing away from their partner and looking downward.

Dolphin

A special type of vibrator that features one large tickler for clitoral simulation unlike rabbit vibrators, which have two ticklers.

DP

Abbreviation for double penetration, a sex position when a woman has a penis or sex toy in her vagina and her backdoor at the same time.

Dry Hump

thrusting that mimics sex without actual penetration. Partners often leave their underwear or other clothes on throughout.

Dual Stimulator Vibrator

a vibrator designed to stimulate different erogenous zones at the same time. Rabbit vibrators, for instance, have a tickler to tease the clitoris while a separate vibrator provides stimulation in the shaft during penetration.

Edging

The act of coming to the brink of an orgasm before stopping for a few seconds to cool off. This goes on for several times, resulting in a stronger and more intense orgasm when the person simply can't hold it back anymore. Edging is also a good way for men to increase their endurance.

Egg Vibrators

These specialty vibrators are roughly the size of large eggs and usually come with a remote control to regulate speed and store the batteries. While egg vibrators can be inserted and used for stimulation, they are most often used to enhance other sex toys like love dolls and some penis rings.

Erection Ring

A snug-fitting ring that fits around a penis to maintain the erection and delay ejaculation.

Erogenous Zone

A highly sensitive area that can be stimulated to bring about sexual pleasure. The nipples, clitoris and penis are common erogenous zones.

Face Sitting

Adult movie slang for when a woman who is receiving oral sex kneels directly over her partner's mouth.

Fellatio

Stimulation of a man's penis using the mouth, tongue, lips, etc.

Fetish

An intense focus or interest in a specific activity, object or body part. Many fetishes center on activities that are considered unusual in mainstream society.

Fingering

Using one or more fingers for anal or vaginal penetration.

Foot Job

Using one's feet to stroke and stimulate your partner's genital area.

Foot Worship

Unusual attention to the feet including kissing, sucking on toes and other similar practices.

Foreskin

A retractable area of skin that covers and protects the head (glans) of the penis. Some parents of male children have this skin removed soon after birth during a procedure called circumcision.

Fornication

Sexual intercourse between two unmarried people, usually in a derogatory sense.

Foursome

Sex with four people at once. 

Friends with Benefits

Two people who are currently friends that have sex with each other on a casual basis.

Fucking

An act of sexual intercourse, especially one lacking passion or a feeling of sincere love.

G-Spot

The nickname for an especially sensitive area located in the upper portion of the vagina. Stimulation of this area can create more intense orgasms and also lead to squirting orgasms – the release of a clear liquid while climaxing.

Hand job

Stimulating and stroking your partner's erogenous zones until they have an orgasm.

Hard On

A slang term for an erection. An erection is when the penis fills with blood in response to sexual excitement and becomes hard.

Head

Slang for performing oral sex on someone.

Hooking up

Meeting someone with the intention of having sex with them.

Impotence

The inability to have or maintain an erection.

Intersex

A person born with a combination of genitals and/or chromosomes that are different from an XY male with a penis and testicles or an XX female with a vulva, vagina and ovaries. Intersex people may have XO, XXY, XYY or any other combination of chromosomes and anatomy. The outdated word for intersex people is “hermaphrodite;” today that term is considered demeaning.

Intimacy

Feelings of closeness and trust with another person.

Jack off

Male masturbation.

Jimmy cap

Slang for a condom.

Jollies

Thrills or pleasure, especially those of a sexual nature.

Koochiesnorcher

A slang term for the vulva.

Kinky

Relating to or appealing to more uncommon or atypical types of sexual behaviors.

Labia

The two lips surrounding the vaginal opening, urethral opening and the clitoris are known as the labia. The outer lips are called the labia majora and the inner lips are called the labia minora.

Love

A powerful, positive feeling towards anotherThere are many different kinds of love.

Libido

The level of sexual interest, drive or appetite by either a male or female.

Lube

A liquid used during sex to make penetration smoother and more comfortable. There are several different types of lube on the market to meet special needs like anal penetration, oral sex, and more.

Lust

A very strong desire for someone, typically of the sexual and physical nature.

Make out

The act of kissing and touching another person, usually for an extended period of time. (i.e.: “making out”)

Masturbation

The touching of one’s own body, especially the genitals, for sexual pleasure.

Massage Oil

These thin lotions are used during massage mainly to cut down on friction and allow for smoother, improved sensations. Some massage oils include special features like scents or warm with contact.

Massage Vibrator

Designed to give a partner a soothing, relaxing muscle massage only, not safe for penetration.

Ménage à Trois

French for "household of three", this usually refers to a threesome. It sometimes describes a sexual relationship between three people who also share a home and/or living arrangements, though this usage is not as common.

Missionary

Sexual position where the recipient is on their back facing their partner who is on top.

Mutual Masturbation

Two or more adults masturbating at the same time in front of each other.

Nocturnal Emission

The technical term for a wet dream, it is the release of semen from a penis while a boy or man is sleeping.

Nipples

The tips of the breasts which are sensitive to touch and temperature. On a girl or woman, the nipple is also where milk is expressed when she is breastfeeding an infant.

Nipple Clamps

Sex toys that fit over and gently squeeze or pinch the nipple for enhanced sexual arousal.

Nipple Pumps

Sex toys that create a vacuum-tight seal over the nipples and increasing blood flow to the nipples. This results in larger nipples and can make them even more sensitive.

Nubs

Small bumps on a vibrator used to provide additional clitoral and vaginal stimulation.

Orgasm

A strong pleasurable sensation that can occur at the climax of sexual excitement.

O-ring

A rubber ring used to create a watertight seal.

Oral Sex

When someone uses their tongue and mouth on their partner's genitals.

Orgy

A sexual encounter involving many people engaging in sexual behaviors at the same time. It is also called group sex. 

Pansexual

A person who can be romantically, emotionally and/or sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender or gender identity and where they identify on the gender spectrum.This includes people who identify as transgender, genderqueer and non-binary.

Pansexual is usually seen as more inclusive than bisexual, but there’s still debate over the definitions. Some pansexual people choose to identify that way because bisexuality seemingly implies only two genders.

Pegging

A sexual act where a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner during anal sex. Also known as role reversal.

Penis Pump

A sex toy used to increase the length and girth of a man's penis. The toy fits snugly around the penis and uses suction to increase the blood flow to the shaft. The increased amount of blood results in a larger overall penis. Results are often improved by using a penis ring immediately afterwards to restrict blood flow and to preserve the increased size.

Penis Ring

A sex toy that fits snuggly around the penis for enhanced endurance. The tight fit restricts blood flow, allowing the user to stay harder for a longer period of time while also making it more difficult for the user to have an orgasm. There are several major varieties of penis rings, including some that use bullet or egg vibrators to stimulate the user's partner and others have multiple straps for the penis shaft and to fit around the testicles to delay orgasm even longer.

Phone Sex

A sexual encounter between two people that takes place entirely via the telephone

Pocket Rocket

Adult term for a discreetly sized vibrator that can be easily hidden in a pocket or purse. These travel-sized vibrators are often used during vacations and sometimes during work breaks.

Prostate

A special gland in the male body that can be stimulated to produce more intense orgasms. The prostate is often called the male G-spot.

Pulsating patterns

An alternative vibrator setting that rapidly turns the vibrator or adult toy on and off as well as adjusting the speed from high to low with one push of a button. There are usually several different preset patterns for the user to choose from. This option is very popular as the user just focuses on pleasure instead of controls. Additionally, some users are further aroused by the surprise of not knowing what to expect.

Pumps

Any sex toy that creates a vacuum-tight seal over a body part to increase blood flow to it, resulting in increased size and improved stimulation.

Questioning

Someone who is not sure what their sexual orientation or gender identity is and is going through the process of figuring out how they feel.

Quickie

Short and fast sex that usually skips foreplay.

Reverse Cowgirl

Sexual position where the recipient is on top and facing away from their partner.

Rimming

Contact between one person’s mouth and another person’s anus.

Role Playing

Acting out a special fantasy that requires two consenting adults to play a certain character, for instance the college student asking their professor for a higher grade or a nurse taking special care of a patient.

Sapphic

A synonym for lesbian; originates from an ancient Greek female poet named Saphos who is known for her love poems addressed to women. Saphos lived on the island of Lesbos, which is also where the word lesbian originates.

Scissor Position

One of the more exotic sexual positions, the two partners have their legs interlocked with their genitals in contact with each other. This allows for a unique angle of penetration, but some find it slightly uncomfortable.

Semen
The whitish, sticky fluid that is released from a penis during ejaculation. A typical ejaculation contains anywhere from a teaspoon to a tablespoon of semen, and hundreds of millions of sperm.

Screwing

A slang term for having vaginal intercourse.

Scrotum

The loose bag of skin beneath the penis that holds the testes and regulates their temperature.

Sex Swing

A special sex toy used to elevate one partner in the air to allow for a new range of positions, deeper and more comfortable penetration, and make other positions easier for both partners.

Shaft

The long part of the penis that is attached to the body and ends at the tip with the head (glans).

Sloppy Seconds
(or slops in Australian slang) is a slang phrase for when a man has sexual intercourse with a female or male partner who already has received another man's penis in the relevant orifice and is therefore wet or "sloppy". The phrase buttered bun is sometimes used to refer to said orifice.

Squirting
Adult movie term for when a female star secretes a colorless liquid from her vagina while having an orgasm. This is not the same as urination.

Stimulators
Any sex toy or feature that can be used to arouse a person and enhance their sexual experience.

Strap on
A special type of dildo that can be substituted for a penis. The dildo or dong is usually attached to a kind of harness the user wears like a pair of panties and must be strong enough to hold up to penetration and thrusting.

Strokers
Slang for hand-held toys used for male masturbation. The user inserts his penis into the toy and then masturbates.

Spanish Fly
A special aphrodisiac made from a plant used to enhance male virility and stamina. The term is increasingly used as a general reference to any and all aphrodisiacs targeted to men.

Spooning
Two partners lying on their side while pressed together, also refers to the same sexual position.

Submissive
Also referred to as the sub, this individual has agreed to give up control to the dominant partner in the relationship. The sub must obey the rules given by the dom and may be punished for failure to do so.

Sugar Daddy or Sugar Momma
A wealthy older man or woman who uses their money to attract and support a much-younger lover by providing them with a free apartment, paying their bills, treating them to fancy dinners and showering them with expensive presents.

Swinger
A person in a committed relationship who has sex with other people with their partner's knowledge and consent.

Swizzle Sticks
A type of butt plug that is both longer and thinner than average. Swizzle sticks tend to be 5 to 7 inches long and less than 1 inch wide. Many swizzles stick also have a unique texture of striped ridges, somewhat similar to a barber pole, for added stimulation during penetration.

Tap

A slang term that means the same as “hit.” For example, “I want to tap that.”

Taint

The perineum, which is the area of skin between the anus and the base of the testicles or the vagina. It is often stimulated for sexual pleasure.

The Bases

A slang expression that uses baseball to describe how far two people have gone sexually. Typically, first base refers to kissing, second based refers to touching above the waist, sloppy second refers to touching above the waist with the mouth, third base refers to touching each other’s genitals or oral sex and fourth base or a home run refers to vaginal sex. Depending on where a person lives, the bases may be defined differently from that.

T-base

A large, flat based product that expands from the shaft similar to the flat line at the top of the letter "t." These are most often found on butt plugs and some other toys designed for anal play.

Taboo

A sex act that is considered unusual or odd by the dominant culture in a society. For instance, sex itself was a taboo topic throughout Europe and America in the later 1800s. Anal sex, while increasingly popular in the adult movie industry, still is taboo in some communities.

Tea-bagging

Slang for when a partner sucks on a man's balls usually while giving the man a blowjob.

Tongue Banging

Using one's tongue during oral sex to stimulate thrusting penetration.

Tribbing

When two women rub their vaginas together.

Reach around
Manual stimulation of a sexual partner's genitals during anal or vaginal intercourse from behind. (idiomatic) An ostensibly thoughtful gesture, especially one performed to win favor or mitigate unfair treatment.

Vgina
The passageway from the uterus to the outside of a female body, this is how menstrual blood, vaginal fluids and babies leave the body. It is also where a penis would be inserted during penile-vaginal intercourse, a finger or object for sexual pleasure or a tampon during menstruation.

Vaginal Intercourse
When a penis, sex toy or dildo is inserted into a vagina.

Vaginal Pumps
Special sex toys that fit over the vagina and use a vacuum-seal to increase blood flow and enlarge the vagina.

Vanilla Sex
Basic missionary-style sex with none of the little extras often found in adult movies like cowgirl or doggy-style positions, anal, toy play or more.

Vibrator
Specialized adult toy that relies on batteries or electricity to power a motor that causes the toy to vibrate at usually high speeds. By using the vibration on or near erogenous zones, this adult toy can deliver faster and more intense orgasms than normal. There are many different kinds of vibrators, each catering to specific needs and fitting a unique niche.

Voyeurism
Getting pleasure whilst watching others engage in sexual activity.

Wall to Wall
Non-stop sex from beginning to end in adult movies; also called all-action.

Wet
When a girl or woman becomes aroused sexually, her vagina will produce some fluid. Because the fluid is slippery, it is referred to as her being “wet.”

Worship
Paying special attention to a specific part of the body by usually licking, kissing, rubbing, fondling or sucking on it. Breasts and feet are both body parts that are commonly worshipped.

Wrist Restraint
A toy often used in bondage games to restrict movement of the wrist and arms. These toys can be used separately or in pairs in a wide variety of locations; they are sometimes used along with leg or ankle restraints.

X-rated
Used by the Motion Picture Association to identify adult movies from the 1960s until the early 1990s. Still used today by many adult companies.

XXX
A widely used abbreviation to identify explicit adult content.

Yarbles
Slang for testicles.

Yodeling in the Canyon
A man trying to perform oral sex on two women simultaneously.

Zebra'd
A white girl wearing a visible black bra or a black girl wearing a visible white bra.

Zelophile
A person who becomes sexually excited because of their partner's jealousy.

Zipper sex
Oral sex performed quickly, without even taking off the recipient's pants.

7/11
Slang term for a brief, fast act of intercourse.

69
A sexual position for oral sex that involves both partners giving and receiving oral sex simultaneously. Usually involves lying side-to-side or on top of each other head-to-toe.

References:
https://urbanthesaurus.org/
https://www.adameve.com/
https://sexetc.org/
https://www.dictionary.com/browse/sex
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/Sex+terms
https://www.gettingiton.org.uk/sex-a-to-z
https://www.scribd.com/doc/16522424/Dirty-Slang-Dictionary
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1 comment

  • I don’t think you missed one word! Very detailed definitions! 👌

    Kyesha

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