Sure, exercise is a great way to relieve stress and improve your sleep. But so is enjoying a little one-on-one time with you and your body.
Masturbation is a safe and natural way to feel good, discover what gets you hot, and release built-up sexual tension. In fact, solo play has infinite health benefits and absolutely no downsides — plus it’s fun!Clitoral
Most people use their fingers to play with their clitoris, but vibrators and other toys can also bring pleasure during solo play. When you orgasm, you’ll feel a tingly sensation along your skin and in your brain.Vaginal
You can use your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate your vagina during solo play. You’ll feel the “Big O” deeper in your body, and your vaginal walls will throb.Anal
You can use your fingers or a sex toy for anal play (although a toy is better for deeper penetration). Right before you orgasm, you may feel an intense need to pee — only the contractions are around your anal sphincter.Combo
This one is all about personal preference. You can use both hands to play with your vagina and your clitoris or a combo of a sex toy and fingers. When you stimulate your clitoris and vagina especially the G-spot at the same time, you’ll feel an explosive orgasm that may leave you convulsing or even lead to ejaculation.Erogenous zones
You can rub, pinch, pull, squeeze, or tug your nipples, inner thighs, ears, neck, and other parts of your body during solo play. These areas, known as erogenous zones, can cause pleasurable sensations throughout your body when played with.How to get started:
- Set the mood
- Add some lube
- Let your mind wonder
- Take your time
- Explore erogenous zones
- Give your sex toys a break
- Watch a porn
- Read a dirty book
- Listen to soft music
Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie in the bathroom! You can plan your alone time just like you would anything else and set yourself up for some quality “me time.” Make it more pleasurable by:
- Use soft lighting (its sexy)
- Playing your favorite music
- Teasing yourself
- Staying in the present
- Add lubrication
There’s no reason to stick to the same routine while masturbating. Instead, add some excitement by switching up positions. If you’re always standing, try leaning against a counter or the wall, with your hips pushed forward. you’re always lying down, try sitting up, either on your bed or in a chair. Different positions mean different sensations and that may mean more satisfaction.Take your time
Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie. Slow down and explore what make you feel good. You can experiment with speed, strokes, positions, hands, toys, and more during a solo session.Switch hands
Changing hands, just like switching positions, can cause different sensations that could lead to intense ejaculation. You may be able to widen your pleasure zone by using your non dominant hand to masturbate.Move your hips
Next time you’re engaging in solo play, move your hips in a circular or back-and-forth motion or in whatever way feels best to you. Increase the speed as you get closer to climaxing. Remember, masturbation doesn’t have to be the same every time!Try different stroke
You can use long, twisting strokes from base to tip. You can palm and pull your penis head while masturbating with a full-hand grip. You could also add a little bit of rubbing to the classic three-finger grip. Just play around with different stroking styles to find the one that feels more pleasurable for you.Don’t focus on the penis
Your testicles, for example, have almost as many nerve endings as your penis. If you want to intensify your pleasure, consider pulling down on your balls right before you climax. You can also massage or play with your taint to create some intense sensations. And through it all, don’t forget to stroke your whole shaft to really build up to that “Big O.”Explore your erogenous zones
You can rub, pinch, pull, squeeze, or tug at these parts of your body to intensify your orgasm during a particularly randy solo session! Don’t forget to play around with different touches to discover what makes you feel good.Prostate also known as “Male G Spot”
You can start off slow by using one finger to gently rub the outside and inside of your anal opening, then insert your finger gradually to massage your prostate. Increase the speed and motion as the pleasure begins to build until you’re ready to finish. If using your finger not your thang try a anal toy.Edging
Want to prolong your play date? Incorporate the start-and-stop method into your next solo session. Orgasm control, also known as “edging,” draws out the pleasure so that you can have a longer, more explosive experience. Try it out by stroking your penis right up until the edge of ejaculation, then stop completely. Slowly begin to masturbate again, increasing speed until you’re ready to finish, then pull back again. Repeat this process as much as you’d like.Toys
There are a number of toys available for men that can add loads of fun to a solo session. The most common are:
- The automatic stroker
- Pocket strokers
- Prostate stimulators
- Anal beads
There are more than just porn videos. Reading or listening to erotica is fun, entertaining, and allows you to explore your fantasies in a safe, sexy way.Bottom line:
Masturbation is a healthy, natural way to explore your fantasies and discover what makes you feel good. Plus, there are so many health benefits to solo play: you feel less stress, you boost your mood, you sleep better at night, and you get a sexual release. Honestly, you should enjoy a little one-on-one time with your body as often as you’d like. Of course, if you’re new to masturbating, that’s perfectly OK. Just remember that there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, so take your time exploring your body and all those things that turn you on. Experiment with styles, toys, and techniques. Do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable and enjoy every second of it!References:
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